Ever wonder how to mend a relationship after an argument is over? You have settled down and have taken responsibility for your part in the fight but you might not be aware of how your co-worker, employee or boss is feeling. Read these important tips below on how to mend a relationship after an argument is over.
How to mend a relationship after an argument
1. Begin by saying, “I’m sorry.” These words are important for your co-worker, employee or boss to hear and to get them to start talking.
2. Share your true feelings with your co-worker, employee or boss but make sure you do this using “I messages” not YOU messages. “I feel ….when …..occured”. Your co-worker, employee or boss is more likely to appreciate your position and hear you out if you are vulnerable and authentic.
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3. If you really feel responsible for what occurred, be willing to share what happened. This will start with owning up to your part in the argument without blaming your co-worker, employee or boss for it. You want to avoid another conflict.
4. Don’t attempt to be “right” about the argument. Even if it wasn’t your fault, allow the space for the other person to own up without you judging him or her. Remember this very important tip- “Do you want to be RIGHT, or do you want to make this work?
5. Be willing to forgive fully if you want the relationship to work. Holding on to grudges only harms the relationship and will pull you apart.
6. Be grateful for your co-worker, employee or boss after an argument. Express your appreciation- this is so important. What do you like about your co-worker, employee or boss? Be willing to share how you feel.
Although it is not always easy to make up after an argument, these tips will help show you how to mend a relationship when the argument is over.